If you are going through a divorce and you have a child, expect that they may experience a range of emotions, such as sadness, confusion and guilt. In these trying times, it is crucial for you to be present and support your child’s emotional well-being more than ever.
Allow them to be part of the process
Allowing your child to be part of the divorce process can help them feel included and gain sufficient level of understanding and control over what is happening. Moreover, this can help clear up misconceptions and fears they may have about the divorce.
Of course, you have to carefully choose which part of the divorce to be transparent with your child of. As much as you can, try to keep legal discussions, disagreements and tension away from your child since witnessing conflict can be distressing for them.
Cooperate with your co-parent
Divorcing your ex-partner does not mean you have to be hostile with them. While you do not have to be friendly with them, it is important to amicably communicate and cooperate with them as co-parents to help your child feel secure during and after the divorce.
Maintain open communication
The divorce significantly takes an emotional toll on your child. To provide them an emotional outlet and a safe space, encourage your child to express their feelings and thoughts about the situation. Let them know it is okay to talk about their emotions and that you are there to listen without judgment.
Extend necessary support
If it appears that your child is not yet comfortable talking about their feelings with you as their parent, you can offer support by providing them the option to seek professional health from a counselor or therapist who specializes in family therapy. This can be a valuable support to your child during the divorce.
It is important to note that the details and extent of a child’s involvement in a divorce should be appropriate for their age and maturity level. Their inclusion should not place them in the middle of conflicts or force them to choose sides.
It is advisable to seek guidance from a knowledgeable divorce and family law attorney to gauge your situation and help you make informed decisions regarding your child.
