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How to deal with an ex-spouse who triangulates

On Behalf of | Jan 30, 2023 | Family Law |

Co-parenting can be a difficult task, especially when one parent engages in triangulation. Triangulation is a manipulation tactic in which one person will use a third person or outside force to create conflict between two people. This can make co-parenting in Alaska extremely difficult and toxic.

Involving other people

One of the main ways that a parent who triangulates can make co-parenting difficult is by involving other people in the process. This can include friends, family members, or professionals such as therapists or attorneys. The parent who triangulates will often use these outside parties to create conflict and division between the co-parents and to gain an advantage in the co-parenting relationship.

Creating false narratives

Another way a parent who triangulates can make co-parenting difficult is by creating false narratives. This can include lying or exaggerating about the other parent, or making false accusations about their behavior, parenting time or parenting abilities. This can make it difficult for the other parent to trust and communicate with the triangulating parent and creates a toxic and hostile environment for the children.

Coping with a parent who triangulates

To cope with a parent who triangulates, it’s crucial to set boundaries and to communicate clearly. This means being firm and consistent in your communication with the other parent, and not allowing them to involve others in the co-parenting process unless necessary. It also means being aware of the other parent’s tactics and not allowing them to manipulate or control the situation.

Furthermore, it’s important to seek a support network from outside sources such as a co-parenting class. This can help you navigate the situation and provide the necessary tools to maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship.

It is also helpful to document any conflicts or false narratives that the parent is creating. This can provide evidence if the case ends up in court or mediation.

Strive for a healthy co-parenting relationship

Co-parenting with a parent who triangulates can be a difficult and toxic situation. However, by setting boundaries, communicating, seeking support and documenting conflicts, it is possible to navigate this challenging situation and maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship for the children’s sake.